10 Self Reflection Questions You Need To Ask Yourself

 source: https://www.thedailymeditation.com/self-reflection-questions

1. What are you happy about from the past year that you will continue next year?

- I am happy that I have more freedom now. I just need to make the most of life. create good memories. forget the traumas and move forward.

2. Did you take anything for granted?

- My health. My Mental Health. Maybe some People that truly cared for me. that I did not see because i was chasing affection from the other people. I learned my lesson, and hopefully this year is better.

3. Have you reached self actualisation?

- 75% haha. I getting there. 

4. Is my lifestyle 100% healthy?

- i am trying my best. starting this month. I finally tried running. it hurts the crap out of my whole body. but I am really determined. I am also trying to eat healthy. as much as I can. 

5. Are there negative thoughts that I need to get rid of?

- overthinking. (even though my intuitions are 100% true :D), saying YES all the time. my very very poor judgement to a person. (actually I already know they are a bad news from the first moment I met them but I'm just stubborn to myself :D) My therapist told me that I will always attract this kind of people because of my past childhood trauma. This year, I will choose to avoid them. God, please give strength.

6. Do I have any fears I need to conquer?

- I learned that when you lose a loved one, especially a family member, I also lose part of myself. it was hard. I am so fragile and vulnerable right now. I did not have the same courage I have when I was in my 20s. I am such a mess right now. but I am slowly healing. slowly fixing myself.  

7. What is one mistake from last year you can learn from for this year?

- oh you know it 😉😜. Never again!

8. Am I doing everything I can for my relationships? Could they be better?

- i am not doing anything! hahahahhaaha that's the problem!

9. Are there any negative people in my life? What should I do about them?

- LEAVE. RUN.

10. What is one thing I can do right now to change my path?

- STOP LOOKING ON THE PAST. move forward! only forward and don't look back!

30th

30th.

11|20|2021

I just turned 30! holy moly. where did all the years go? How did it all happen?

I still can't believe I've been alive for 30 years!

Okay let's take a look back, and Let's see what's been going on with my life right now. Just a few recaps.

Family - well wow! what a huge 360 degrees turn. I don't even know where to start.

hmm. Mama passed away last year, in February 2021. Man, that was so traumatic. from the moment she was brought to the hospital. can't go into details right now. but I will write it here soon.

Then my Kaka Zen, after fighting cancer for about 3 years. He already reaches the finish line. it was sad. and toxic. and depressing.

it was even harder in the months after. I was in really bad shape, MENTALLY.

Man! that was crazy.

Relationship - don't even make me start! haha. Well, it was not that bad. there were few suitors. but the timing is just not right. I know... when?? haha, when will I be ready? I don't even know... to be honest, I am totally fine without it. or maybe it's just not what I need right now...👀😩

Career - On this part, I am confident to say that it's going pretty well. My work was finally noticed by my Supervisor and Boss. I received an increase.. and incentives. So far it's doing all right.

Health - I am trying to live healthily, and eat healthy as much as I can. I try to be physically active. I am 72kg now. I know... OMG. been trying hard to be physically active to lose weight. I hope I can do better this year.

Mentally.... hmmm I'm a total mess. and it doesn't help that I am surrounded by toxic people. hayyyy

I know what to do. I try to speak with a therapist. I am also taking some calming pills. so far it helps. I hope I will get better.

I am now living in Taguig. yup the same old house I grew up with.

I am not sure what is the right next step. I wanted to move out but there are so many factors to consider. ahh..

it sucks to be an adult.

Overall I am fulfilled and satisfied and proud of myself for everything that I have achieved over the past 30 years of my life. it wasn't easy. especially since I did everything on my own.

I can say that I enjoyed and valued my 20s.

and I am soooo looking forward to my 30s. I am very excited.

they say the 30s are all about being more confident, and stable... that's all I ever wanted all my life.

I am hoping and praying to be at peace in my 30s.

Hoping for the best!

 

WFH

 

 

When you first heard of the set of “Work from Home”]

The first thing that will come to your mind is “wow, that’s so convenient!”

There is no other place like HOME. Therefore, working at a place where you are comfortable is efficient as most of the studies say. It is indeed convenient and suitable. Especially to those who have a family, a single parent, or a person who is taking care of a sick family member. To some, it is a privilege. A privilege to spend more time with their loved ones. To avoid the hassle of commuting. That is why that is one of the factors that most people are considering in applying for or accepting a job offer.

When the pandemic happened, to be honest, I was quite thrilled. Finally! I can work wearing only my pajamas. No need for me to wake up early, and fall in line to catch the first Bus trip. I can finally stay at home and take care of my brother who is sick at that time. I can prepare his meal, buy his medicine, and do household chores. Before, I can only water the plants on the weekends. It was a perfect setup for me.

That is what I thought. For at least the first 2 weeks… haha

Don’t get me wrong, everybody knows I am an Introvert. I like my space. I need my recharge time. I have no problem if I don’t go out of the house for a few days.

But I missed going to the office every day. I missed dressing up and putting on some makeup. I miss my morning routine with my co-workers. Chatting about the traffic, getting coffee or breakfast. I miss meeting people in the meeting room. Face to face. I miss the hugs and the gossip at the pantry! I miss giving high fives to the guys… little friendly punches… haha

I miss seeing my crush! Pretending to go to the bathroom just to catch him walking in the hallway. :D I miss the “kilig” feeling. I also miss having lunch with my boss. Korean barbecue at night and maybe a few drinks. hayy

  

 

 

 

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They say, I am the reserved type, shy, kind, one who doesn't get mad, the one who understands, the one who is always there, always available, the one who is talented, the one who has high standards, the one who is caring and lovable. 

but...

has low self esteem, no confidence, so choosy, too sensitive, a little too clingy and needy but sometimes tend to be cold as well.

I took the Myers-Briggs test to better understand myself. and I learned that I am INFJ.

INFJ. according to Myers-Briggs this my personality type. INFJ stands for Introversion (I), Intuition (N), Feeling (F), and Judgment (J), which describes the INFJ’s core characteristics. Both introverted and people-oriented, emotional and rational, thoughtful yet at times spontaneous, INFJs can feel like walking contradictions. They read others well and easily “see behind the mask” that people unconsciously wear; ironically. https://introvertdear.com/news/infj-secrets/

qualities such as..

1. On a different wavelength

2. Highly perceptive of others

3. Absorb other people’s emotions

4. Amazing long-range forecasting abilities

5. Both emotional and rational

6. Creators of deep emotional intimacy

7. True introverts

8. Sensitive to conflict

9. End up in one-sided relationships

10. Looking for their soulmates